Comparison: The #1 Thief Of Joy

“Why can’t my life be like hers?!”

This was perhaps the single, most prominent thought that permeated the circumference of my brain on a consistent and daily basis. Shackled by the grief of comparison in the ever-increasing, filtered world of social media, it wasn’t always easy projecting massive amounts of confidence -- especially when I felt as though every girl was more beautiful, more qualified and more successful than me.

Soon, I developed this unhealthy habit of comparing (and faulting) myself for not achieving certain goals, and being absent of having certain titles or salaries … and oh, can’t forget the shame of not having a selfie as ‘pretty as the other girls,' right?

The idea of trying to become this 'person' with unflawed beauty and an incredible career, who said all the right things like, ___(insert social media ‘celeb’ name here)___, became almost an insatiable need to win this invisible competition that I was having with Lord knows who -- and boy was I losing.

It was as though the person who God created me to be wasn’t enough. And so, I decided I was going to change the way I think. I began viewing myself the way God does.

In that moment, I discovered that God thinks I am MORE than enough. And that I am capable, successful … and beautiful. 

To Him, my light doesn’t dim in the presence of other women, in fact, when joined with other QUEENS, we shine brighter.

I now know that the presence of another woman's beauty or success does not mean the absence of my own.

For in sum, her success instead motivates me in knowing that I, too, can become the INCREDIBLE woman God created me to be.

“Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that … Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life.” Galatians 6:4-5 MSG

One of the reasons I started God Thinks I Am was to instill this very concept in you. In us. So that we could grow together, and align our thoughts with the most-High God, without caring what other people 'think' about us. To empower you to live your best life, without fear or restraint. To be unabashedly, uniquely and beautifully you, in a sea of other equally dope women. Cheers to becoming our best selves.

Lots of love,